What did you want to do when you were a kid? What is it that you are passionate about? What is holding you back from doing it? And, what will you do today to move closer toward it?
Imagine with me for a second that you are standing on a dirt road in the middle of the jungle and have just hired a guide to take you through the South American jungle to a treasure-filled site, rich with both culture and gold. You met this guide in the small, run down city just a mile away and engaged him in a conversation about this legendary city. After a two hour conversation, he offered to take you to the location. You jumped at the opportunity, got in your jeep and just arrived at the trail head. As you leave the dirt road and head into the thick, green, dense jungle, your guide takes out his machete and begins chopping away at the jungle. It is hot and muggy out and mosquito bites begin to form on your sweat-laden arm, but you don’t care, you’re about to discover the treasure of a lifetime! After 2 hours into the journey, your guide cuts away the final bit of brush in front of you to open up into a wide, open field. You step into the field and gasp in awe as you notice the jeep you drove to get there. “Oops, lets try that again” the guide says. You then ask the guide what happened. His reply, “Well, I know this is the entrance, we just gotta figure the rest out as we go”. You quickly realize that the guide has never actually been to the location! But he looked so convincing! He even wore a hat with crocodile teeth on it and carried a big knife!
The moral of the story is this:
"You can’t promise anything to anyone that you yourself have not experienced for yourself"
If you are to be able to lead other people to be extraordinary and ultimately legendary, then you yourself must become that! You cannot expect to go off of what others have said. Maybe you’ve been to a seminar and someone has told you where to get started and at the end of the weekend, you climbed in your car, blasted your “power music”, got home, went to bed, saying, “I’m going to start first thing tomorrow”. Then you woke up this morning and realized that that was 2 years ago and you aren’t in any better of a position now than you were then!
You began making excuses for yourself and now the people who follow you in your business, family, and personal relationships are making the same excuses! They are frustrating you to no end and you don’t know why they can’t commit to anything or follow through!
You want a harsh reality…YOU STARTED IT!
The excuses you make for yourself will become the excuses of those who follow you, so decide today to STOP MAKING EXCUSES and start making extraordinary changes.
Step 1: Start committing yourself to your decisions and take immediate action to follow through with one step to put you closer to them within the hour that you make them. Get the ball rolling and see how big of a snowball you can wind up with. :)
Grab your machete and get going!
Be Extraordinary Today :-)
What could puppies possibly have to do with leadership? Coincidentally, a lot.
Dogs live in packs and those packs require leaders who lead by example, guide and direct when necessary, but also let their followers try and learn things on their own.
Take a lesson from a puppy today and do as the dogs do.
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Now when I think of some of the most memorable leaders of our time, the 4 that come to mind for me are Jesus Christ, Hitler, Martin Luther King, Jr. , and Charles Manson.
What is so incredible about these leaders is how much of an influence they had on the people around them, whether it was for good or for evil. You have Jesus Christ, who, no matter what you think of him, was such an influential leader, that he affected the world with his teaching through 12 men and who’s birth and death are a cause for our concept of time (B.C. & A.D.). Then you have Hitler, as an opposite example, who took over a country and convinced people to turn against the Jewish people in an attempt at committing mass genocide. Martin Luther King, Jr. fought for Civil Rights and persuaded a generation and many to come, that equality is key, and that the dream of a multi cultural society is how God designed things and in a country that promotes freedom, we were challenged by his teaching. Then, finally, you have Charles Manson, who’s followers were so dedicated to him, that they would do inexplicable things for him and make complete fools of themselves in the eye of mass media whenever their leader asked it of them.
Though all of these leaders were influential in their own right, what made the difference in how they impacted the world? It was their Ethos (Moral Character) that determined how they impacted the world for better or for worse. This is such a pivotal pillar of leadership that we are spending two days on nailing it down, because if you don’t know where your moral character lies, you aren’t ready to lead people anywhere.
Who are the leaders that come to your mind? And why are/were they influential? (Good or Bad)
Nora Ephron on the premiere of NBC’s The Playboy Club, in this week’s NEWSWEEK:
I worry (as someone who was an adult in the 1960s) that young people will see The Playboy Club and think that this is what life was like back then and that Hefner, as he also says in his weird, creepy voice-over, was in fact “changing the world, one Bunny at a time.”
So I would like to say this:
1. Trust me, no one wanted to be a Bunny.
2. A Bunny’s life was essentially that of an underpaid waitress forced to wear a tight costume.
3. Playboy did not change the world.
I agree with number 3 above and I don’t at the same time. Now, don’t get me wrong. I in no way endorse Playboy, nor anything that it stands for, but to not see how it did change an area of counter-culture would be to ignore facts. I believe that it changed a lot of things that are done nowadays, including the way marketers market.
In the spirit of leadership and what leadership is, I would say that Hefner led a counter cultural rebellion that eventually has led to an industry that has torn apart families and relationships by presenting an unattainable sort of perfection to the Playmates portrayed in his publication. Hefner, a leader? Yes. A good one? Not really.
So, while I was watching Hitch with Will Smith last night, I decided to start writing a book on Effective Leadership. Long story short, I wound up with 3 pages that I felt inclined to share with all of you who are interested. I hope you enjoy and I hope this gets you started on the path to effective leadership in your own business or personal life. Take care and God Bless!
CHAPTER 1 – YOUR LEADERSHIP
How often do you hear someone standing around the water cooler at work or you talk with someone who you are having a meal with and they have nothing good to say about their boss at work? We’ve all heard the same thing over and over again, “My boss doesn’t have a clue as to what he’s doing!”, “A frikin’ trained monkey could do his job”, “I could do such a better job at this”.
First of all, if you’re one of these people I will be straightforward with you…shut up. Your standing around the water cooler isn’t going to solve any problems and although your complaints may be warranted, they aren’t doing anyone any good because you can’t change anyone but yourself.
Now, if you are on the receiving end of these conversations (or rather, the one in their office while everyone else is around the water cooler), then all of this talk that is going on is crap, right? Wrong! Time for a wake up call for you! If one or two people are talking about you behind your back, then it could be nothing, but if you have groups of people saying something about you, then you need to take a long hard look at yourself and make some changes…NOW!
Here is an exercise for you to do right now. Find a restroom or some sort of mirror close by and go to it. Take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror and write down what you see:
When you are finished, go take a seat in a quiet area and make two lists: one that lists what you think your peers think of you and one that lists what you think those you lead think of you and your leadership:
What Peers Think
What Employees Think
When you are finished with those lists I want you to write down the first person to come to who exemplifies the word LEADERSHIP in your mind. Then, I want you to write under his/her name a list of what makes you think of them as the perfect leader:
When you’re done with that, take a look at the lists that you wrote about yourself earlier. Do you notice a difference? If so, then it’s time to go to work and that’s why you’re still reading, right?
Who are you???
I firmly believe that you can’t truly know where you’re going until you know where you’ve been and what has made you who you are today, and then knowing who you are today. Sometimes taking a look at our pasts can bring up some bad experiences that we may have had, but we need to get this clear now: Everything that has happened in your life has made you the way you are and you wouldn’t be you without it, no matter how bad it was.
In order to move forward, you need to be thankful for what got you here. As hard as it may be, I want you to take some time and say you’re thankful for EVERYTHING that has made you who you are today. Now I want you to leave all of that stuff in the past and focus on the present and write down what it is that you like about who you are now, in the space below:
Now, write down what it is that you would like to change about yourself and why:
Get The Voices Out!
Now that you know where you’ve come from and are thankful for that, and you know what it is that you like and dislike about where you’re at now, it is time to move forward.
So many times we are completely weighed down from moving forward with anything in our lives because that stupid little voice in our head is telling us not to move anywhere. Now, don’t get me wrong there are good voices that tell us not to touch the stove because it is hot, and we should listen to those because we like the skin attached to our body, but the other ones are best ignored.
The Story of Jonathan
(Jonathan is a made up name to protect the privacy of my client)
Jonathan was having some trouble making friends, so he hired me to help him out. The first time we sat down together and talked about things I asked him one simple question, but it was this one simple question that opened up the door and let the light in for him. The question was this: Have you ever had a bad experience from going up to someone and simply talking to them? His answer? No. I then asked him, “then Jon couldn’t some of the presumptions of what people are going to think or say could just be in your head?” You should’ve seen the light go on with him in his head and the weight that was lifted off his shoulders. From that point on, the doors were so much easier to open for him and with some other exercises we went through he started making friends left and right.
Sometimes we are our own worst enemies and this simple question can open so many doors for you that it will blow you away.
Here is a test so that you can identify whether you should listen to that voice in your head. Ask yourself these questions when a voice pops into your head: Have I tried this before? If no, then stop right there and don’t listen anymore. If yes, then was there something that happened to make me believe that I can’t or shouldn’t do this? If so, has it happened multiple times. Finally, is this really a valid reason to not move forward or is the fear just in my head?
I will tell you that 99.9% of the time, it is the fear of the unknown that is holding us back, not a legitimate reason at all.